It’s sad that this is still true in our greatly civilised and non-third world countries, that women do earn less. That’s not the main point of this post though.
I would like to ask the media outlets to ignore people who add no true value to the world. That would probably lead to empty daily newspapers and silence on TV news stations, which would be a financial tragedy. Yet it’s the media that chooses who we focus on. Why focus on someone who is a sexist nationalist like Janusz Korwin-Mikke? The fact that he is a member of the European Parliament allowed him to make his sexist speech and be heard by the world.
Let me introduce myself-I am Anna,I was born in Warsaw,Poland.When I was 4 yo,I moved with my family to New York City for 4 years,then came back to Warsaw for 3 years and to New York again for 4 years.Then I came back and lived in Warsaw until I kind of moved out.
I actually was a late bloomer independent traveler(but it’s never too late).I spent my teenage and student years on travelling with travel agencies with friends.I really started in the summer of 2010.Me and my bff,planned(not precisely at all) a 3 week trip around Norway,from the south to the (not so far,Lofoten the farthest)north and back to the south.The tricky part was,that it was to be done only by hitchhiking and couchsurfing(our first time doing both).Long story short,we managed,had a blast and got to experience Norway firsthand.I fell in love with nature there.But also with travelling independently.Then I did some short trips with friends and Erasmus students who I took care of.In 2012, I went off on my first solo trip(after a failed trial of hitchhiking the Balkans with a girl met online,I quit that after the first night in a forest in a tent by a road).I went to the Baltic countries.I figured I’ll travel by bus and sleep in hostels,no hitchhiking or tent on my own.I went to Lithuania,Latvia and Estonia.Riga,Latvia ended up being my favorite,mainly because of the people I met in the hostel,in bars and on couchsurfing.That was when I learned the cliché,that you do learn a lot about yourself when travelling solo.You also experience adrenaline,a never-ending challenge and constant drifting into the unknown.In the meantime I took a 2-year break from University,thinking of never coming back,but to have the option just in case.I planned to travel long term.I ended up going on many short trips with friends and then solo trips to Georgia and Goa,India.In India somehow,I had a revelation,I was ready to travel long term for sure.
After all these trips,I knew I had been living in Warsaw for far too long(apart from travels,I was annoyed to always have to come back to living in the same place).Until the year 2014 when I went to Inveraray,Scotland to work in a hostel.I was a Joint Hostel Manager(there were only 2 people working there:P) and Publicist(managing the website,blog,social media,pr,marketing).It was heaven on Earth.I had just a bit of work.I was living in a beautiful small town.I had contact with the guests.I had a cool challenge doing the Publicity work and had a creative flow of ideas.I had plenty of time for myself,to travel,wander around,read,do yoga,jog,explore.My idea was,that I could work in Europe during the summers and travel to exotic places during the winters.And so I bought a ticket for 4 months,to India for November.I was a bit in panic.I am afraid to solo travel around there,that’s the reason I bought a ticket.I thought if I’m afraid,I should face my fear.But I got a ticket to Thailand instead:)So,I was to be in Mumbai 2 days and then safe and civilized Thailand.In the meantime,I also started to give English lessons on Skype,so I was already working when travelling,plus I still did the publicity work for the hostel.I went off to India,then Thailand,traveled around there,plus Cambodia and Vietnam.Then went back to Scotland.
Glasgow wasn’t my thing from the first night out there.But I tried to get a job.I was still teaching through Skype,but Polish money in the UK isn’t so strong.I loved this possibility though and didn’t want to lose my students,so I was trying to get a job which could fit in with teaching.It wasn’t easy.In Poland I never had problems with getting a job,which wasn’t complete shit.Here I didn’t even get the job of a waitress.I got a part-time job in a guest house,but it was a bit shady.I had secured a hostel job in Edinburgh,which became the best option.
In Edinburgh I met like-minded people,who traveled and worked,traveled for work,or worked to travel.I still kept teaching through Skype all summer,connecting it with my hostel job.Working night shifts to do that,didn’t leave me with much time to enjoy Edinburgh though.But the thought that I would have money to travel plus to pay some part for my school,that I was planning to finish kept me motivated.Then on the day of my flight back home,I a)first time in my life missed my flight cause of a fire on the highway b)lost my second flight cause of c) losing my bag with everything.I had taken up almost all my summer’s pay,to not lose money when drawing it out in Poland(I know,how stupid,never again).And apart from the money,I had all my documents,my DSLR camera and 2 phones.Fortunately I had my laptop in my luggage which I left at the airport and my phone that I use, in my pocket(the chargers were in the bag though-but whatever).
So my travel plans were quite ruined.With this situation I didn’t feel like going back to school,after not having traveled for about 9 months,I knew I would quit school again if I didn’t travel soon.So I skipped school and got a job in a corporation for 2 months.I was still teaching through Skype and gathering new Skype students.I got a one-way ticket to Bangkok for March.The company wanted me to stay longer,but I couldn’t. I actually got a migraine,I was so overworked,with this job,teaching,maintaining my social life that I enjoy so much in Warsaw plus ME time.ME time was suffering too much.Fortunately,I live with my parents when in Warsaw,so I did not have to work to pay the bills.Call it egoistic or childish,I call it sacrificing to achieve my goal,which is being self-sufficient,with a remote job,which one day will allow me to support myself even in the richer countries in the world.For now,I can do this in South East Asia.I do have to go back to Europe unfortunately,to finish the school thing.Then I will have more opportunities to work and live around the world.One of them can be teaching English in for example Japan,or somewhere(in Asia they need a degree,doesn’t matter the if you have qualifications or experience).
I have this blog,which is not making any profits,to gather other travelers’ stories,interesting places,pro-social or remote business ideas,anything to do with living differently.I hope to interview people or present their stories here.I know that many people don’t live their life the way they would like to.I want this blog to inspire,give ideas of achieving your perfect lifestyle or purely entertain.
I must say,I prefer to present others’ stories,as I don’t know how exactly I want to live yet.I know at my age,people have a direction.I find my way good as well,I am flexible:)I try to gather many different skills,working different jobs,live in different countries,try all kinds of lifestyles,to maybe find one direction.However,I don’t think I have one and I don’t have to have one.This world gives so many opportunities and why not try all of them?I have been teaching English for 10 years altogether,so this is quite a long time of doing the same thing.Now,that it allows me to travel,I don’t think it will ever get boring.I just need good Wi-Fi and to get up at night(the only minus of the time difference between Europe and Asia).I travel with a laptop,that’s the only additional burden apart from working a bit at night.I am writing this from a beautiful Thai island-Koh Samui,which I explored by scooter and will spend some days here relaxing at the beach,enjoying good food,shakes and Thai massages.So,the advantages greatly exceed the burdens of this lifestyle:).I just can’t be in one place for too long,and then I can be happy.I do have a place on Earth that I call home-Warsaw,where I have the people that I love and whose company I enjoy a lot!However,I do not see myself living there for long.Having to be there,or close to it,for one year is a tragic vision for me already,but I know it’s a must.I know I will want to settle down in one place from time to time,for a month,2 months,maximum for 2 years.I have hobbies that I can’t develop easily when on the road.Even exercising or doing yoga is a challenge,but I would like to work more on DIY projects,making,remaking things,baking,cooking,selling things(trying to:P),learning new skills which require focus.So being on the road for too long can get a bit disorderly.With time I think I will come up with an idea and the means for a lifestyle which will allow me to balance all the things I want to do in life.For now I am travelling around Asia,teaching through Skype and trying to gather interesting stories plus interesting products to buy here and sell in Europe!
This is my story,but I want your stories.If you travel and work,are an expat,travel long-term,live differently in any way,then please contact me.Share your story to inspire others!
Now I am in Thailand.I plan on going to Malaysia and Indonesia and I’ll see what then.For now,here are some of my photos from Thailand,which I post on Instagram(onehapeehipee).
I have a theory,that there are two kinds of logic: social logic(what society makes us think)and real logic(what is obvious,but because we sometimes let society think for us,we don’t use it at times).I will show the difference between these ways of thinking through some aspects of life(I won’t use the terms social logic and real logic in the examples,because I think they’re quite easy to differentiate):
Real love is rare.Let’s not pair up just for safety,fear of loneliness etc.Let’s face it,not many will encounter a deep soul connection.If you don’t,it’s ok to be single until you do,even if you never do.Let’s learn to not settle for less.There is a line between accepting your partner and settling for less.If you’re not happy with someone,with how they treat you,if you experience mostly negative feelings,anxiety etc don’t settle.Even if someone wants to change or promises to,they won’t.We are as we are,at some point,we can only make small changes in behavior,attitude,outlook,life philosophy and lifestyle etc.It’s worth waiting for such a love that will feel so right,you would never think of leaving or risk losing them,for whom you would give the world to and from whom you would receive it,someone you can’t imagine living without or not sharing this hell on Earth with:)Maybe that will happen never,but I think it’s worth not wasting your time on the mediocre,Mr/Mrs Right Nows,temporary people etc.If everyone focused on pairing up more meaningfully,there would be more value in relationships.People would put more effort in developing themselves as human beings,developing intellectually as well as emotionally.
Not everyone wants children or is parent material.For many people,having children should be forbidden.Women have a physical instinct,but some should shush it,and find some other things they can put their energy into.If the wrong people have children,society suffers,either because of the children’s mental,physical or emotional disabilities.So it’s alogical that society wants everybody to have them although the more children the more people to make money.Thanks to modern technology,we could avoid the mental and physical disabilities,but we don’t.The emotional problems could be avoided or solved,by teaching parents or future parents,how to deal with and raise children.That also doesn’t happen(at least not thanks to the government).It’s not like people are born with knowledge how to be a good parent.It takes hard-work and talent to raise children well.I’m not saying that a school for parents will do the job(there are so many other factors),but it would be some kind of support for them,so they can feel less afraid and helpless or even depressed.There isn’t only a positive side to parenthood.Instead,society forces an idea,that it’s the most beautiful thing that can happen to a person.Work I mentioned in my previous post,that work takes up so much precious time and we don’t get a lot in return.Most people dislike getting up early in the morning,but that isn’t taken under consideration when the basic work hours are from 8am or 9am.Work lasting 8 hours per day is also surreal.Everybody complains but they don’t do anything about it and continue to do it obediently.The truth is people don’t concentrate on work the whole 8 hours,so we could work shorter and be more effective.The work doesn’t finish in the 8th hour(some work longer)because you have to commute.You could say “Ok,but if I work shorter hours,I won’t be able to do my shopping etc,everything will closed earlier”.There could be shifts and that would be even better,all companies could be open much longer(maybe even 24-7 if needed).The next irrational situation is,that even if you are a millionaire or a director of a company,you sometimes have to work even longer than the average worker,so when do they have time for themselves,others or to spend their money(isn’t that the reason they want the money-to be free?).Even if you start your own business,at the beginning it takes up all your time and later it may not change,because you’re afraid to leave your company with no supervision.There’s no easy alternative to this way of life.I would start a change with cutting down the hours of the workday.This could be easier to swallow for the economy than for example the basic income idea.
Schools up to Secondary School should change their method of teaching.Instead of having so much boooring,useless theory,they should put the most important and useful information into practice.The same with Universities.If you aren’t a student or haven’t finished any University,people suppose you aren’t intelligent,ambitious or hard-working.The truth is,that nowadays any vulgar,dull thug can get a diploma from some University,they just need to have a lot of money.Does that make sense?And still you graduate and have no skills,because you’ve just spent 5 years studying(if so) theory for exams and deleted the information from your memory afterwards.
We go to war for it.We fight for the less fortunate countries to have it as well.Yet do we really have freedom in”civilized” countries?Can we live in whatever way we want to?Are we not being controlled?Do we not have to identify ourselves somehow,even to move around this planet?Is money really the only way to feel free?Based on what logic is the “freedom” issued?Is it logical that we can drink alcohol but not smoke a joint?Is it logical to get a fine for littering on a pavement,that stops nature from expanding?Are we really happy and comfortable to not rebel?If all of us stopped being pragmatic conformists,then something could be done.I believe this will happen some day.
Ok,these are just some aspects and situations,which are pointless,but we believe in these “verities” as if they were our own.We have to trust our intuition and not be afraid to state our opinions,even if others disagree or think of them as crazy.I know, I may appear to be an idealist,but in this situation,you need other people to put this into practice.A good way to do it would be starting temporary societies-where no one would have children.I’m not sure what would happen,but it could be an interesting experiment.Of course,it wouldn’t be big groups(people need to have children in order for the homo sapiens to not be extinct).The small size would make it less anonymous,so there would be better conditions for good things to happen.It’s just an idea,although I would be up for taking part in this!:)
I feel like the whole world is chatting on WhatsApp,Messenger,Viber etc.instead of talking.Taking photos of their life etc.and posting them on Instagram,Tumblr,Pinterest etc.,instead of talking.Posting their life on Facebook,Twitter,LinkedIn,Blogs etc. instead of talking.
Social media makes communication easier and more accessible,yet at the same time,not meaningful.When was the last time you called your friend to TALK(and listen)?Or better yet,met in real life?It happens less often than in the past and not only because some are out of school and have steady jobs and less time.People before technology and phones used to pop in uninvited,unexpectedly and no one was annoyed.With these social networks,we’re not really together with others(physically),but not alone in a healthy,relaxed way as well(vibrations,ringing or the screen light up can’t let us focus easily on just BEING).Now it seems we’re more accessible online,yet more distant live.We’re active on Facebook,yet passive in reality when sitting in front of the screen.We have lots of friends on Facebook,but we feel lonelier than ever.The quantity and quality of face-to-face communication has gone down,and the quality of online communication,yet flattened it completely.Body language plays a key role in interpersonal communication.There is no space for that through chatting.We can’t understand the real message of “I’m fine” or “That’s great” if we don’t see and especially hear the person.We hide most of the message behind written words,so we are misunderstood.However,it seems,that this form of communication is becoming the leading one.
A never ending cash flow maybe would be satisfying and could make us happy. But money doesn’t come easy. You have to spend a lot of time earning it, by doing something dull, or even if not, the time is wasted. Living in a materialistic society makes us work hard with too little free time, therefore we are prone to some illnesses, physical as well as mental. The level of satisfaction with life is low,if we don’t have time for ourselves. Taking part in a rat race gives no meaning to life. We must have time to evolve and for our hobbies. Long working hours don’t let us concentrate on all aspects of life, to live life to the fullest.
Buddhism is an old philosophy, which teaches that “suffering ends when craving ends”. So, the less we need and want,the happier we are. It concentrates on the more important matters in life, like humanity, love, the spiritual aspects of our life etc. There is some reason for this philosophy being so popular especially in western cultures. Our capitalistic society has a totally different outlook on life and other values (if any). Some who notice the negative side of society, modern civilization and technological development, have a need to free themselves of this kind of money and time prison, and turn to unconventional methods and lifestyles.
“DO LIKE STEVE JOBS DID: DON’T FOLLOW YOUR PASSION” This article shows how hypocritical Steve Jobs was by saying “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, and don’t settle.He was just on a way of spiritual enlightenment at a Zen Center,when he realized he could make good money off of his friend’s idea.Suddenly his enlightenment(what he did for free,so it must have made him happy) stopped being necessary,as soon as he started to benefit financially off of this.So,when large sums of money are involved,some can sacrifice everything for them.I don’t want to be negative,but let’s remember how and at what age Job’s life ended,wasn’t really a happy ending,didn’t even get to use that money properly.However,even if he lived to be old,that’s not a great time to use money as well,when you’re weak,sick and tired.
Job’s motto,doesn’t really include basic jobs,which are very important,but not lovable or fun.We need all kinds of professions,and there shouldn’t be such a financial hierarchy.Actually,physical jobs should be paid a lot,as they’re very important and not so fun.Another aspect is,if you love what you do,don’t do it for money.Some people actually would be less motivated after a while,if what they love to do became an obligation.We need a passion after work.Or we need fewer hours of work,to enjoy life,which is another thing.If I would love to play video games,and I got paid to do it 8 hours per day,5 days a week,wouldn’t I get sick of it?Such an amount of work on some specific thing,doesn’t allow us to develop ourselves completely,just in one direction.After work we have so little time,that we can’t dedicate ourselves to anything else completely.
It’s hard for me to say which values should be more important for happiness than money, but any higher(at least in some way)values cannot be maintained if we’re thinking about earning money, paying the bills, buying material things etc. Of course money is needed, but you never know when the need can overwhelm us and if we don’t control ourselves, our needs will become whims or suck humanity out of us.And this article-“Happiness Comes from Giving, Not Buying and Having”-shows the opposite.Giving away money and spending time on helping people,makes us happier than earning money.
Deficiency actually,sometimes may lead to boosted creativity. For example, in the past, when there wasn’t such a variety of toys in the shops, children had to make their own toys or think of games to play. This automatically enhanced their imagination. People before used to spend time by having meaningful conversations,creating games and activities,now they mostly use technology or stimulants when with people.So having less may be helpful.Creativity doesn’t have to bring in more money,but just by different forms of activity,communication,ways of spending your time not depending only on money,we can benefit from this.
Therefore, money itself may not be the problem here, but the way we come to achieve it. I have no easy way out for people in general, I know what some may do to run away from this kind of life trap. But it’s not a solution for all, because society must function somehow, and if we can’t change it, there have to be people to work for it.If all people earned enough for a comfortable life for less than 40 hours per week,the world could actually be civilized.I don’t understand why that hasn’t happened yet.All economies are different,yet the time of work is more or less the same.What I want to do in life is treat myself,people I love,my hobbies as priorities and work as a mean to have time for these aspects.As I am low-maintenance with few needs and much flexibility,I don’t mind having not a fun job for some time to save money, and have time for what I want.With a retirement account,I can be secure for old age,health insurance can protect me to be safe and that’s all I need.I like to enjoy life and the simple things too much,to be obsessed with money and work.My passion can become at some point my job,as long as it’s not my whole world.We need higher values to appreciate life,and to have them,we need time for development,and I mean the real development,not just the professional one to get more money.I think even if I were a millionaire,I still would want to live like this.My goal isn’t to stop working.Even the not so fun jobs can be positive,as long as they’re temporary.People need some structure in life,but from time to time.So,it’s not that I’m lazy and don’t like the idea of work.I just want to work enough for my own entertainment of doing something and getting an income for a life full of simple pleasures,time being most important,not money.
This ted talk once scared me.I looked back at my 20’s and realized I hadn’t worked on my adult ME in my 20’s at all.I didn’t focus on relationships,a career,finishing University(just starting and quitting),settling down,saving money for real estate etc.I did not claim my 20’s.I was focused on myself and on pleasures.I was a hedonist.
With all this,I still don’t think that my 20’s were a waste of time.I do feel ready to claim my adulthood now in my own way,or at least start.Maybe it’s my 30th birthday or my life experience,but I feel ready to focus on serious things now.Still not in a traditional way according to the rules of society,but in my way.I feel I’ve grown emotionally,spiritually as a woman and human being.I feel I am getting to know myself better now-my needs,values,identity,priorities etc.And actually I still don’t need that career,University degree,to settle down,have a house.
What did change, is my perspective on relationships.I don’t think they are the worst thing that could happen to you,anymore.However,as always,I am not going to settle for having whomever.I learned I can give a lot to someone,but I need that person to give as well.I will always give my all,but I will stop if I don’t get the same. Continue reading 30 is the new 20→
Where have all the past values gone?Does anyone else wonder about this as well?Where has the intelligence,curiosity,mindfulness,values and emotions(I could go on and on)gone?Oh yes,everybody goes to college,university these days.I have studied many faculties at many universities,however there isn’t much intellectual activity or curiosity going on there.Mainly a rat race with the goal of finishing whatever to get a (good,better,the best)job.If universities didn’t give diplomas at the finish point,I guarantee more than half of the students would vanish.
What about the values nowadays?What’s important to people?Their Nikes,smartphones,Facebook profiles,credit cards,etc.Materialistic and shallow tools of corporate manipulation and products of the consumerist era,all shoved in the minds by successful advertising agencies which persuade the superficial society.Successful these days are the ones with the most expensive cars,biggest houses,collections of gadgets and the highest positions at work.
But I have some questions for you.Do you enjoy working minimum 40 hours per week(plus the commute so for some 50h)?Do you feel you have enough time for yourselves?Do you feel you have enough energy and time for your loved ones?Do you dream of quitting your job.Are you truly happy most of the time?Do you feel you are doing something valuable with your time on Earth?Do you like to wake up early 5 times per week?Are the 8 free days per month enough for you?Do you feel you are paid enough for the time you sacrifice at work?Do you have to time for self-reflection on who you are and what you think,feel,love to do,represent?
How are you so sure you have so much time on this planet to be wasting it on not valuable,superficial,meaningless activity?There is so much we have to explore.So many books to read,knowledge to get,places to travel to,cultures to learn about,hobbies to have,activities to learn etc.Plus,most important,we need time for ourselves to develop our consciousness,mind,behavior,health and emotions.Are there many entertainments in this kind of world that allow us to do that?What do you do with your free time?What do you do everyday to develop yourself,not as a worker,but as a human being?
For computers to not take over,and for us not to turn into ones,it’s vital to maintain humanity.To be aware of our inner selves and others around us.There’s no space for egoism and individual “success”.We form a whole and everyone matters.That’s why self-development is necessary.If we are taken care of,society is taken care of.For all these things,to be taken care of we need well organised time and encouragement to have more of it.If we use our time better,we may get back the values,intellectual level,emotions,curiosity etc that we once had.If we have time to think more,we might actually do it,and when we think more,we probably will be more active intellectually in life,not take part in shallow entertainments and foolish activity,because we will be more free and independent thinking.Everyone can find their own way of achieving this.Hopefully,it will become a priority for people now.Like I said,we don’t don’t know how much time on Earth we have.Would you still be living as you are,if you found out you had one or two years left to live?
Thanksgiving is a good time to remind ourselves what we’re grateful for.But this could be done daily.The benefits of remembering what we’re thankful for are endless.From the physical-stronger immune system and lower blood pressure through emotional-higher levels of positive emotions,to social-we become more generous and compassionate.Hardly anyone thinks of the basic things that they should be grateful for.We take a lot for granted.This ritual could help us become more aware of our situation in life and of others.Everyday you can tell yourself or better yet,write down in your journal what you appreciate.I think people burdened by depression would get out of it(of course,not advanced depression),thinking about what they have and not what they’re missing.In my opinion people are most important.If I didn’t have them,maybe this method wouldn’t be so effective,as I am not materialistic.However,a calling,hobby,talent is also a great treasure.In the end though all hobbies,life experiences,trips would not make sense if not for the people who I can share it all with.Personally,this is the reason I like to travel to the poorer countries of the world.People there know,they have family,friends,loved ones who make their life worth living.They appreciate people in their lives and the time they spend with them,not status,things,possessions.So think of the people who make your life worthwhile and thank them,maybe not just today!Plus,here is an interesting article about gratitude.
We live in a time of a sexual revolution,although you’d think it had happened already.It seems like people are obsessed with it.I was always liberal about the topic and actions.However,I’m quite jaded now by the overly meaningless attitude towards sex.You don’t have to connect it with emotions,but what you do with your body can have limits.It’s like sex is an entertainment.What will I do tonight?Go to the cinema,read a book or hook up with a random dude/chick?It’s unintellectual as drinking booze or taking drugs.The effort you put in it is worthless.Now all kinds of apps,websites make it so easy for one night stands etc.I feel that our values go down with such (excessive)behaviour.It can be fun,but when will it be enough?It’s proven that human beings are getting dumber-Research suggests humans are evolving to be dumber.A low emotional intelligence IQ is maybe less important in society than logical etc,yet it shouldn’t be.We are social beings,and should learn to care for interpersonal relations…the intellectual and emotional ones,not only physical.Love is a very hard feeling to achieve,as it requires much effort and work.Going to bed with someone is easy.So in the times of technological and scientific inventions,almost living in space,in-vitro etc,how is it possible we are so behind in being caring human beings with higher values??
Sex sells.That doesn’t mean we should use it for that.I support enhancing the level of thinking and making things more ambitious.Sex is not ambitious.It’s actually primitive.As advanced beings we should represent this better.I think this perspective also changes with age,as you get wiser with experience.So many get to this conclusion at their own pace.It’s new for me and I’m quite aged:PValues change and our standards rise.
Unfortunately,I blame this whole situation partly on equal rights.Why did we decide-ok,we have equal rights,so let’s fuck strangers equally?Instead of,let’s all have respect for each other and let’s get to know each other on a higher level than just physically?Men won,with women copying their ways of behaviour and calling it being it equal.Why don’t men start behaving like women(although thankfully some do) and focus on communication,family,sacrificing,compromise etc.Wouldn’t that be much more valuable to society than everyone randomly hooking up for one night stands?But women sacrifice and compromise,so that didn’t happen.Do you think people are happy or happier living this way?Are we really better off without warmth,bonds,a sense of belonging,care,attachment,commitment etc.Personally,I think we miss out on a lot living like this.
Why do so many people choose to miss out on all this good stuff?Why are they scared of sharing their lives with another person?It’s probably connected with the infantilized generation,generation Y,kidults etc.Read this article for more information-The Infantilization of the Postmodern Adult and the Figure of Kidult .We’re not mature for serious activities,commitments or responsibilities.Maybe we are for work,as it gives us money,but even there,we put ourselves first not work(I actually support egoism in this area). In all other aspects we are egoists,but not the healthy kind.
I thought I belong to this kidult era.On the whole I do,as I do not value work as the most important thing in life,I work to live not vice versa.I live on a day-to-day basis.Return to my parents to save up money to continue with my nomad lifestyle.I’m self absorbed and self-entitled.I could write more,but you get the idea.However,in all this,I’ve started to change my perspective on relationships and human relations and connections.My life experience and what I’m learning now about myself,have shown me that I matured and this changes the perspective on the oh so important human contact.From being the best example of an emotionally retarded person,I have changed into an emotionally healthy and stable human.Now I look at the sex thing completely different.I feel it’s not directly connected with age,but life and relationship experience.Now I see that with every relationship you learn about yourself.If you don’t form relationships you won’t learn anything.With every new hook up you don’t get much knowledge or insight.So,people who have many relationships can actually be more mature.Of course,being alone is also good,you have to be capable of being with yourself before you can be with someone.I’m not saying to form relationships with anyone,but to be more open to form relationships,but for the right reasons.To take more emotional risks and give people chances.Don’t treat people as objects,and you’ll be surprised what they have to offer.An easy life is not a full life.And the difficulties of human relations can be more fulfilling and valuable.
I like the idea of remaking things,adding accessories,up-cycling etc. Recently I got my creative vibe going. I realized,that it´s really difficult for me to start working on making things, because of Continue reading Sea life eco-bag→