I feel like the whole world is chatting on WhatsApp,Messenger,Viber etc.instead of talking.Taking photos of their life etc.and posting them on Instagram,Tumblr,Pinterest etc.,instead of talking.Posting their life on Facebook,Twitter,LinkedIn,Blogs etc. instead of talking.
Social media makes communication easier and more accessible,yet at the same time,not meaningful.When was the last time you called your friend to TALK(and listen)?Or better yet,met in real life?It happens less often than in the past and not only because some are out of school and have steady jobs and less time.People before technology and phones used to pop in uninvited,unexpectedly and no one was annoyed.With these social networks,we’re not really together with others(physically),but not alone in a healthy,relaxed way as well(vibrations,ringing or the screen light up can’t let us focus easily on just BEING).Now it seems we’re more accessible online,yet more distant live.We’re active on Facebook,yet passive in reality when sitting in front of the screen.We have lots of friends on Facebook,but we feel lonelier than ever.The quantity and quality of face-to-face communication has gone down,and the quality of online communication,yet flattened it completely.Body language plays a key role in interpersonal communication.There is no space for that through chatting.We can’t understand the real message of “I’m fine” or “That’s great” if we don’t see and especially hear the person.We hide most of the message behind written words,so we are misunderstood.However,it seems,that this form of communication is becoming the leading one.
We meet strangers by chatting online or through apps,often judging them by their photos(therefore by their looks or appearance-quite shallow).
We use passive communication on social networks by tweeting,liking,poking.
We send emails,messages or texts with birthday,Christmas,Easter etc wishes.
We send invitations to events that we organize on social networks.
We make new friends or break up through online messages.
We maintain long distance or close distance relationships through messaging.
We constantly use our phones when we’re next to our close ones.
We meet or call people less often than write,email,chat,which is not pure quality time,however we feel like it is.
We make people feel lonely in our presence,when ignoring them,to use technology.
We limit our linguistic level when communicating virtually to tire less of writing.
These are just some examples of how we are dehumanizing our human contacts and weakening our personal bonds and ties.It’s already proven that social networks are influencing our brains,society,ways of communication in a negative way.
Here is a study which gives more details-(Anti)Social Networking: Technologies’ Negative Impact on Human Relationships
If our communication skills continue to be crippled by the short and impersonal forms of communication,we might turn into emotionless robots.Not being able to express our thoughts,feelings and ideas,will cause complexes and people will become more anti-social to not feel embarrassed or ashamed.Speaking is more spontaneous than writing.Therefore,people will become less spontaneous,therefore less free and more calculated.The aspect of freedom is quite important.We should fight to maintain the spoken language and develop it,not cripple,to feel more comfortable when expressing ourselves.
I think that social networks are best used for exchanging information.That is their main advantage.We can obtain information about our hobbies,cultural events,world events etc.We can share interesting articles or ideas.Learning new things is possible thanks to these networks.However for maintaining friendships and relationships and human contact,real life meetings are best,when possible.When not possible,video chats are the closest to real life,yet still not irreplaceable.I think face to face meetings offer much more creative and active opportunities than online chatting,therefore they are less likely to bore us(unless we meet and just use our phones together).Another thing is how would we spend our time if we had NO social media or internet?Our human relationships with one another and with ourselves,would get so much closer,deeper,meaningful and real,maybe?But that is impossible to do nowadays.