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The irrationalities of society

I have a theory,that there are two kinds of logic:  social logic(what society makes us think)and real logic(what is obvious,but because we sometimes let society think for us,we don’t use it at times).I will show the difference between these ways of thinking through some aspects of life(I won’t use the terms social logic and real logic in the examples,because I think they’re quite easy to differentiate):

Relationships

Real love is rare.Let’s not pair up just for safety,fear of loneliness etc.Let’s face it,not many will encounter a deep soul connection.If you don’t,it’s ok to be single until you do,even if you never do.Let’s learn to not settle for less.There is a line between accepting your partner and settling for less.If you’re not happy with someone,with how they treat you,if you experience mostly negative feelings,anxiety etc don’t settle.Even if someone wants to change or promises to,they won’t.We are as we are,at some point,we can only make small changes in behavior,attitude,outlook,life philosophy and lifestyle etc.It’s worth waiting for such a love that will feel so right,you would never think of leaving or risk losing them,for whom you would give the world to and from whom you would receive it,someone you can’t imagine living without or not sharing this hell on Earth with:)Maybe that will happen never,but I think it’s worth not wasting your time on the mediocre,Mr/Mrs Right Nows,temporary people etc.If everyone focused on pairing up more meaningfully,there would be more value in relationships.People would put more effort in developing themselves as human beings,developing intellectually as well as emotionally.
Children
Not everyone wants children or is parent material.For many people,having children should be forbidden.Women have a physical instinct,but some should shush it,and find some other things they can put their energy into.If the wrong people have children,society suffers,either because of the children’s mental,physical or emotional disabilities.So it’s alogical that society wants everybody to have them although the more children the more people to make money.Thanks to modern technology,we could avoid the mental and physical disabilities,but we don’t.The emotional problems could be avoided or solved,by teaching parents or future parents,how to deal with and raise children.That also doesn’t happen(at least not thanks to the government).It’s not like people are born with knowledge how to be a good parent.It takes hard-work and talent to raise children well.I’m not saying that a school for parents will do the job(there are so many other factors),but it would be some kind of support for them,so they can feel less afraid and helpless or even depressed.There isn’t only a positive side to parenthood.Instead,society forces an idea,that it’s the most beautiful thing that can happen to a person.Work

I mentioned in my previous post,that work takes up so much precious time and we don’t get a lot in return.Most people dislike getting up early in the morning,but that isn’t taken under consideration when the basic work hours are from 8am or 9am.Work lasting 8 hours per day is also surreal.Everybody complains but they don’t do anything about it and continue to do it obediently.The truth is people don’t concentrate on work the whole 8 hours,so we could work shorter and be more effective.The work doesn’t finish in the 8th hour(some work longer)because you have to commute.You could say “Ok,but if I work shorter hours,I won’t be able to do my shopping etc,everything will closed earlier”.There could be shifts and that would be even better,all companies could be open much longer(maybe even 24-7 if needed).The next irrational situation is,that even if you are a millionaire or a director of a company,you sometimes have to work even longer than the average worker,so when do they have time for themselves,others or to spend their money(isn’t that the reason they want the money-to be free?).Even if you start your own business,at the beginning it takes up all your time and later it may not change,because you’re afraid to leave your company with no supervision.There’s no easy alternative to this way of life.I would start a change with cutting down the hours of the workday.This could be easier to swallow for the economy than for example the basic income idea.

School

Schools up to Secondary School should change their method of teaching.Instead of having so much boooring,useless theory,they should put the most important and useful information into practice.The same with Universities.If you aren’t a student or haven’t finished any University,people suppose you aren’t intelligent,ambitious or hard-working.The truth is,that nowadays any vulgar,dull thug  can get a diploma from some University,they just need to have a lot of money.Does that make sense?And still you graduate and have no skills,because you’ve just spent 5 years studying(if so) theory for exams and deleted the information from your memory afterwards.

Freedom

We go to war for it.We fight for the less fortunate countries to have it as well.Yet do we really have freedom in”civilized” countries?Can we live in whatever way we want to?Are we not being controlled?Do we not have to identify ourselves somehow,even to move around this planet?Is money really the only way to feel free?Based on what logic is the “freedom” issued?Is it logical that we can drink alcohol but not smoke a joint?Is it logical to get a fine for littering on a pavement,that stops nature from expanding?Are we really happy and comfortable to not rebel?If all of us stopped being pragmatic conformists,then something could be done.I believe this will happen some day.

Ok,these are just some aspects and situations,which are pointless,but we believe in these “verities” as if they were our own.We have to trust our intuition and not be afraid to state our opinions,even if others disagree or think of them as crazy.I know, I may appear to be an idealist,but in this situation,you need other people to put this into practice.A good way to do it would be starting temporary societies-where no one would have children.I’m not sure what would happen,but it could be an interesting experiment.Of course,it wouldn’t be big groups(people need to have children in order for the homo sapiens to not be extinct).The small size would make it less anonymous,so there would be better conditions for good things to happen.It’s just an idea,although I would be up for taking part in this!:)

 

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Is social media making us less…social?How technology is killing communication.

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I feel like the whole world is chatting on WhatsApp,Messenger,Viber etc.instead of talking.Taking photos of their life etc.and posting them on Instagram,Tumblr,Pinterest etc.,instead of talking.Posting their life on Facebook,Twitter,LinkedIn,Blogs etc. instead of talking.

Social media makes communication easier and more accessible,yet at the same time,not meaningful.When was the last time you called your friend to TALK(and listen)?Or better yet,met in real life?It happens less often than in the past and not only because some are out of school and have steady jobs and less time.People before technology and phones used to pop in uninvited,unexpectedly and no one was annoyed.With these social networks,we’re not really together with others(physically),but not alone in a healthy,relaxed way as well(vibrations,ringing or the screen light up can’t let us focus easily on just BEING).Now it seems we’re more accessible online,yet more distant live.We’re active on Facebook,yet passive in reality when sitting in front of the screen.We have lots of friends on Facebook,but we feel lonelier than ever.The quantity and quality of face-to-face communication has gone down,and the quality of online communication,yet flattened it completely.Body language plays a key role in interpersonal communication.There is no space for that through chatting.We can’t understand the real message of “I’m fine” or “That’s great” if we don’t see and especially hear the person.We hide most of the message behind written words,so we are misunderstood.However,it seems,that this form of communication is becoming the leading one.

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Give thanks everyday not just today

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Thanksgiving is a good time to remind ourselves what we’re grateful for.But this could be done daily.The benefits of remembering what we’re thankful for are endless.From the physical-stronger immune system and lower blood pressure through emotional-higher levels of positive emotions,to social-we become more generous and compassionate.Hardly anyone thinks of the basic things that they should be grateful for.We take a lot for granted.This ritual could help us become more aware of our situation in life and of others.Everyday you can tell yourself or better yet,write down in your journal what you appreciate.I think people burdened by depression would get out of it(of course,not advanced depression),thinking about what they have and not what they’re missing.In my opinion people are most important.If I didn’t have them,maybe this method wouldn’t be so effective,as I am not materialistic.However,a calling,hobby,talent is also a great treasure.In the end though all hobbies,life experiences,trips would not make sense if not for the people who I can share it all with.Personally,this is the reason I like to travel to the poorer countries of the world.People there know,they have family,friends,loved ones who make their life worth living.They appreciate people in their lives and the time they spend with them,not status,things,possessions.So think of the people who make your life worthwhile and thank them,maybe not just today!Plus,here is an interesting article about gratitude.